http://lukemertens.com/sushila Fri, 11 May 2012 21:11:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://lukemertens.com/sushila/2012/05/blog-my-way-to-the-life-i-want-28-days-of-conscious-creation-day-10-ten-traps/comment-page-1/#comment-102 Gabrielle Pullen Fri, 11 May 2012 21:11:00 +0000 http://lukemertens.com/sushila/?p=746#comment-102 Sushila, there's an interesting relationship here between caring and not caring that I never understood until now. I have been told a few times that I 'care too much.' What can that possibly mean, I thought. I just didn't get it, not after years of Alanon, and ACOA and coda meetings and learning about moving out of victim mode and codependence into a more self-compassionate way of being. But it's the death of my daughter that has given me the gift of insight that I was completely over-extended precisely because I still cared more for others than I did for myself. I no longer get sucked into this because I have effectively gotten the difference between being a human BEING, and being a part of the human RACE. I abdicate any further willingness to participate in the race. Not only that, while it's fulfilling to help others, I am no longer trying to save the world. I have come to see that, for me, both are true: the western fear that we are going to you-know-where in a hand basket AND the Hindu view that everything is perfect exactly as it is...and, if it means something to you, its worth doing. Sushila, there’s an interesting relationship here between caring and not caring that I never understood until now. I have been told a few times that I ‘care too much.’ What can that possibly mean, I thought. I just didn’t get it, not after years of Alanon, and ACOA and coda meetings and learning about moving out of victim mode and codependence into a more self-compassionate way of being. But it’s the death of my daughter that has given me the gift of insight that I was completely over-extended precisely because I still cared more for others than I did for myself. I no longer get sucked into this because I have effectively gotten the difference between being a human BEING, and being a part of the human RACE. I abdicate any further willingness to participate in the race. Not only that, while it’s fulfilling to help others, I am no longer trying to save the world. I have come to see that, for me, both are true: the western fear that we are going to you-know-where in a hand basket AND the Hindu view that everything is perfect exactly as it is…and, if it means something to you, its worth doing.

]]> http://lukemertens.com/sushila/2012/05/blog-my-way-to-the-life-i-want-28-days-of-disciplined-creation-day-2/comment-page-1/#comment-101 Tamara Randi Fri, 04 May 2012 16:12:14 +0000 http://lukemertens.com/sushila/?p=706#comment-101 great blog site. Thank you for sharing the interesting and thoughtful meanderings. I have noticed your increased interest in politics. Years ago I joined the Democratic Central Committee, I didn't want to be a person who just complained and did nothing about it. It is sad that our species' development and our existence has been created on the haves and have nots of the world (whatever form the trading of goods took). It has created fear and covetness (I am making up my own words here). I am just rambling and no need to preach to the choir. Thanks for sharing. great blog site. Thank you for sharing the interesting and thoughtful meanderings. I have noticed your increased interest in politics. Years ago I joined the Democratic Central Committee, I didn’t want to be a person who just complained and did nothing about it. It is sad that our species’ development and our existence has been created on the haves and have nots of the world (whatever form the trading of goods took). It has created fear and covetness (I am making up my own words here). I am just rambling and no need to preach to the choir. Thanks for sharing.

]]> http://lukemertens.com/sushila/2012/04/blog-my-way-to-the-life-i-want-28-days-of-disciplined-creation/comment-page-1/#comment-100 Judy Mariuz Mon, 30 Apr 2012 02:49:25 +0000 http://lukemertens.com/sushila/?p=703#comment-100 Sounds like a great day, Sushila! And congrats on starting a blog...I'd like to do that someday, too. Sounds like a great day, Sushila! And congrats on starting a blog…I’d like to do that someday, too.

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